All these years later, I also am beginning to understand, that a whole lot of what people understand and do in their lives has a whole lot less to do with what is rational and a whole lot more to do with what we learned the world was like before we had words to articulate it.
Our beliefs are formed pre words and pre-rational thought. Getting to the core takes a lot of work because the part of the brain that speaks in words isn't where the belief is being stored and acted on.
Welcome to the lizard brain. It is the world of primitive belief and involved in keeping the body safe and alive. It is why we can know beyond a shadow that we need to change our actions and rationally understand that time is past and gone.... and still behave as if we are two and this is our mommy.
It is the strangest feeling to sit with someone and hear them voicing a set of beliefs that they would like to make their own, while their body is crying out "No, No, No, That's not how it goes and that's not what I will act on."
The reason that I use EMDR, trained in it and love it is that it works better than most therapies to actually change the lizard brain core. My personal problem is that it is the most boring form of therapy because it is also the least interactive. The way I tolerate its boredom factor for me is by knitting to time the intervals. I am beginning to find a way to isolate and understand those survival imperatives that uses a combination of brain integration, somato-emotional release and EMDR. It is pretty effective and has some helpful parts for things like weight loss.
This is pretty neat. I love learning things like this.
